Crushed for the light (27:20)
When one speaks crushing words of rebuke, it must be with the sole purpose of enlightening, illuminating and uplifting one's fellow. Never, G-d forbid, to humiliate and break him.
(Chassidic saying)
As parents, we have the tremendous responsibility of teaching our children and guiding them in the proper path. On this journey, we find ourselves having to stop negative actions and discipline for negative behavior. But we must always remember the goal—to illuminate their soul and bring out the best potential in our child. Sometimes, we feel the urge to tell our children off for something they have done. But we must first assess the situation and make sure that our words will have an “illuminating” effect after all.
This Shabbos, reflect on the way you handle negative situations. What is the follow up? Is what I’m saying having an effect or is it, G-d forbid, “crushing”, but not illuminating? Tell your children about the special job Hashem gave you—to help them be their best and light up as brightly as possible. “You need to lose out right now because you didn’t make the right choice. I have a special job to help you be your best and when I see you are ready, you can _____.”
May Hashem give us the strength to truly allow our children to shine by guiding them and disciplining them properly. May we enjoy the light of every Jew with the coming of Moshiach Now!